A mainstream South Korean film depicting a BDSM relationship and starring Girls’ Generation’s Seohyun was most certainly not on our bingo cards for 2022. No one could have anticipated that a South Korean film would ever dare centre itself so heavily around the topic of sex, much less unabashedly delve into the world of sexual fetishes and kinks as Love And Leashes does – and yet, here we are. If you've ever hooked up with a stranger, perhaps even before getting their name, congrats, you've tried stranger play. "Stranger play is one of my favorites! When I was younger, I convinced myself that women found me attractive more for my personality than my body. So, a total stranger who doesn't 'know' me engaging in a specific sexual scene is really affirming," says Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast. 26. Emetophilia For instance, while Ji-hoo does develop a desire for Ji-woo to enter a D&S dynamic with him as her submissive, he’s careful not to push or pressure her into engaging in things she may not feel comfortable with. Likewise, Ji-woo takes the time and effort to understand her feelings and what the relationship would entail, thoroughly researching the concept and establishing a contract that emphasises consent from both parties involved. Based on the webcomic Moral Sense, the film begins as Jung Ji-woo (played by Seohyun) comes across an unfamiliar face in the office, who is later revealed to be a new transfer from the company’s business department. His name is Jung Ji-hoo (former UKISS and UNB member Lee Jun-young); the uncanny similarities between their names – there’s only a singular letter separating them – elicit amusement from their co-workers, who point out the likelihood of misidentification in the future. This is probably a confusing concept for some submissives because of what is commonly known as a Velcro collar. A Velcro collar really has no true meaning behind it and is given and taken away on a whim. Many would argue that it cheapens what a true collar means and I quite frankly have to agree. I say this because it’s not earned in any traditional sense.

Whether or not there is a ceremony is up to both parties. Usually, in my experience, it is a private affair but sometimes it is witnessed by close friends. It is a solemn occasion and one to be taken with seriousness. There is no right or wrong way to it. Though sometimes it may be followed by a party.

Did you know you can flag iffy content? Adjust limits for Violence & Scariness in your kid's entertainment guide. Get started Close Vorarephilia is the infamous cannibal kink. It means getting turned on by fantasies of eating someone, and the subject has made headlines this year due to the sexual assault allegations against actor Armie Hammer.

In many ways, Love and Leashes is progressive for Korea, as this film features a submissive man wanting a dominant woman master (but not a "dominatrix" exactly). It tries to flip the conventional sexual power relationship featured so prominently in Fifty Shades of Grey. Right out of the gate, the film wants to establish that it's "sensitive and with the times" by not allowing a "homophobic" presence in their company where the two main characters work. The film tries to call out sexually inappropriate behavior and comments in the workplace. And it tries to differentiate between respectful or genuine BDSM men from "bad ones" who just want to dominant and rape women. But the film also starts with the premise that, "no relationship can be equal, power-wise... there's always one who is dominant and one who is submissive." Quirofilia is one of those kinks that sounds more far-out than it is: It simply refers to an attraction to hands. Whether you go for big, hairy hands, or soft, dainty manicured ones, considering how much we use our hands during sex, it's a highly relatable kink. 22. Pregnancy Sensation play can refer to a huge range of activities based on the receiving or withholding of different stimuli. For instance, one partner may blindfold the other to deprive them of their sense of sight, a form of sensory deprivation, or they may drag an ice cube along their skin, a form of sensation play known as temperature play. 8. Orgasm Control I would say it’s getting less common as we have more language around it. No one should ever use the word pervert. That’s right up there on my list of things we don’t call other people.After our first forays into D/s, my Lord and I discussed highlights from our latest scenes. What did I think, he asked me, of buttplugs and of a collar? For those concerned about burns, opt for a candle made for sex, such as JimmyJane's afterglow massage candles. These candles burn at a lower temperature, so you can enjoy the heat on your body without worrying about causing injury. 20. Vorarephilia As with many sexual fetishes and kinks, the actuality of BDSM is often overcast by the various (often negative) misconceptions among the general public. Popular Western films that have touched on these dynamics, like the Fifty Shades Of Grey series or even American Psycho, are often rife with tropes that perpetuate or even glorify harmful stereotypes of the power play between the dominant partner and their submissives.

READ MORE: ‘All Of Us Are Dead’ review: a grisly zombie apocalypse that bites off more than it can chewIf you need to learn more about what collars are before reading this post, I suggest This Collar, That Collar, Your Collar, My Collar. What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some, it is a new beginning of a journey. For others, it is a step in the training process. It all depends on the Dominant you are with. For every Dominant has a different way of doing things. How does one get to the point of being collared? This is probably one of the more confusing things for a submissive to understand because there is no clear-cut answer. There isn’t a formula one can use and arrive at that destination because every Dominant you meet may handle this step in a different manner. Some may not even use what we commonly think of as a collar, but rather a definitive mark such as a piercing or tattoo or even a piece of jewelry.

Sexual violence, fear. A man threatens to hit and tie up a woman against her will after taking her to a hotel room. The woman tries to secretly call a friend, but it doesn't work and only makes the man angry. Attempted rape is implied, but the man doesn't succeed. After, a scene shows the man tied up, and the woman zapping an electric taser in her hand. Also, there are instances of sexual harassment, sexual jokes, and sexually inappropriate comments in the workplace. The other kind of "violence" on display is the contractually agreed upon "play sessions" of a man (the submissive) and a woman (the dominant), wherein the woman physically "hurts" the man by stepping on him with heels, dripping hot candle wax onto his skin, biting him, gagging him with a ball gag, whipping him, slapping him in the face, and smushing his face with her bare feet. She also yells at him, curses at him, and belittles him. The film focuses on the man's desire to be belittled and physically hurt a bit and not so much on his sexual enjoyment of anything. The only safe and consensual way to try paraphilia is to (consensually!) add it to your dirty talk. But, maybe wait until you know someone and their preferences before whispering, "I want to cook and eat you alive, honey." 21. Quirofilia I have been fortunate to wear a collar both in real-life and online in my various journeys in this lifestyle. It was never something I rushed into and it was always something I viewed with respect. It was something that I had earned the right to wear. But how does one earn the right?Yes, pregnancy can be the result of sex, but it can also turn people on. Pregnancy kinks include a desire to get someone pregnant (sometimes known as a breeding fetish) and an attraction to pregnant people. "The former is one with an element of riskiness. There's a permanent potential to be forever with the consequences of unprotected heterosexual intercourse," says Renye. The latter may simply be an attraction to a pregnant body or could be a type of age play. 23. Tentacles Many in the lifestyle take months or even years to come to this point in their journey. It is certainly not something to be rushed into. For many lifestylers, it is considered to be a bond greater than that of marriage. Would you rush into a marriage without knowing anything about the person you are marrying? I truly hope that the answer to that question for all of you is “No”.