By the way, it should probably be said that there are plenty of times that my husband has taken my advice, opinion and made many decisions that were my preference; they just don't get the same buzz. In the cases above, he exercised a tie-breaking authority because it was necessitated by an impasse. When we fell in love, me at 22 and him at 28, I was living out of one clean laundry basket and one dirty basket, thriving just fine while he was busy perfecting the hanging pant pleat. I now keep our mutual space (no promises on my closet!) much tidier and more organized than I would if I lived alone.

I didn’t give up smoking pot, I gave up my desire to start. It might not seem like a big deal, as many people can agree it’s a habit better not started but I felt like his opinion on my substance use was a big usurping of my personal freedom. verifyErrors }}{{ message }}{{ /verifyErrors }}{{ But notice: in all these examples I mention trusting the right intentions of my husband. Because immediately after that submission verse, the Bible gives the husband a directive too: “ Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25) Given that I’m the type of person who needs an IV of coffee every morning and basically loves a lot of anything good (including that delicious laughing gas at the dentist), there’s a chance, a slight chance, that he’s right: people with addictive personalities probably shouldn’t dance with MaryJane. 7. I clean the house.

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