Perfection Kills

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Perfectionism has an element of compulsivity, and anything short of perfection is seen as a failure.” – Ellen Bowers Independently validate your approach to be sure that you are indeed doing your best. Outside help will help you to find and fill gaps while also building confidence. Perfectionism causes unhappiness—ill feelings within the self and in relation to others. It creates a life seemingly fraught with danger at every turn because the high standards believed to be important can never be met. This creates a tired, discouraged person, always on the brink of satisfaction and achievement but never quite making it. Perfectionistic parents raise nervous children, those kids who hover around the edges of something fun, afraid that they will do something wrong and get yelled at.” – Ellen Bowers That way, your productivity goes down the drain, and you lose your precious time. Being a perfectionist may still not make you perfect in the eyes of others. Perfectionism Can Get Extreme Sometimes, paying unnecessary attention to every detail can do more harm to your productivity than good. Chances are that in retrospect you can see the good times and bad times flipping. Good events will stand out and bad ones fade more. Because those bad times aren’t so bad and don’t mean so much in the end.

There is no way to genuinely, powerfully, truly love yourself while crafting a mask of perfection.” — Vironika TugalevaPerfectionists tend to screen out positive options, almost always focusing on the negative. Perfectionists sense a host of “shoulds” careening through their mind most of the time. Perfectionists adversely compare themselves to others and make many wrong assumptions, imagining that they can read minds and that others can read their minds. There are core beliefs of not being okay, not being valuable or lovable. The result is a lot of spinning wheels and wasted time and energy.” – Ellen Bowers Too many people spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually do it. Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you got, and fix it along the way.” — Paul Arden

Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” — Vince Lombardi As a perfectionist, you are often a people pleaser, wanting others to think highly of you. With your all-or-nothing thinking, you see yourself as “good” if people like you and “bad” if they don’t. And with people pleasing comes a lot of difficulty making decisions and avoiding important conversations, for fear that you’ll upset someone else. As such, your work is often crippled. 6. You’re highly critical of others. In February 2014 DAN was chosen to open for BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN in front of 64 000 people at the FNB Stadium in Johannesburg, the biggest audience he has ever played to, on his High Hopes tour. DAN was personally approved by Springsteen as support act, seeing as Springsteen rarely has guest artists for his shows. Perfectionism is a trait that makes the person constantly concerned with striving for flawlessness and perfection. We’re going to have to bust down the door on the myth of perfectionism. We’re going to call it what it really is: fear.” — Karen RinaldiThis way, you can continue to improve the quality of your output and, at the same time, be more efficient in terms of the time invested in a particular task. You may spend an awful lot of time brainstorming a new idea. But your urge for perfection results in most of these ideas being binned, simply because they are seemingly not perfect enough! Seeking perfection may seem noble, but it sets you up for unreal expectations, and then nothing matches up. In relationships, if you expect your partner to be perfect, you will be disappointed; no matter how great they are, perfect is not attainable. In this way you can be much more productive while continually improving your odds of good results. Step 2: Independently validate your approach